Gay Relationships shows higher incidents of infidelity

In a recent study, it was shown that men in same sex relationships have a higher rate of infidelity than those of their straight counterparts.

It’s a dreadful, yet unavoidable lesson that each and every person learns. And while they frequently fail for many different reasons, maybe the most common — and the toughest to take — is when one cheats.

For a lot of people, infidelity is seen as the ultimate dealbreaker. Even more astonishing, 45 percent of admitted cheaters said their partner never found out.

This information came as a shock even though we ended our relationship a year ago. To clarify, I’m no longer teary-eyed mess every time someone brings up his name, but I could not help but reflect on the joys of our two-year romance.

For someone who loved me as much as he said he did, it was bad enough that he cheated; yet by not confessing and having me figure out using a secondhand source a year later was the cherry on top of our broken relationship.

Don’t get me wrong: Infidelity is definitely the worst crime any person can commit against their partner, and the two parties necessarily end up getting hurt. If infidelity is it a frequent part of the queer dating experience, is it really possible for men to sustain purposeful, honest relationships with each other?


Queer men have constantly fought with liberating themselves from the heteronormative constructs imbedded in our cultural structures. Despite the fact that they tend to be invisible, these ideas are detrimental to the queer experience for several diverse reasons, including the fact that they perpetuate sexual hierarchies and divisive stereotypes about men seeking relationships with men. These constructs are evident in the transformation of queer culture today: More and more LGBTQ individuals are embracing monogamous relationships and parenthood.

While monogamy, parenthood and marriage are equally desirable, queer people are told their entire lives that they need to conform to the status quo, they need to be or act a certain way to be happy, they ought to lead normal lives to have the ability to achieve acceptance. This stereotypical image is currently the omnipresent echo of society.

While Stonestreet and Ferguson are commendable for their multi-dimensional portrayals of gay men, Cam and Mitchell are only one of many representations of the exemplary homosexual couple people expect, one almost identical to another suburban family obsessed with the notion of a white picket fence — which is bullshit at the end of the day. The Cam and Mitch film, which was created by heterosexual showrunners, is eventually a dangerous stereotype since it reinforces the notion that queer people must adapt to a specific lifestyle in order to be generally accepted as normal by society.

As queer men, we are often told that there is an ideal we must succumb to. Sometimes we are even shamed into thinking that there is a perfect way to build relationships, families and lifestyles. However, these attitudes are harmful since they are restrictive to maintaining healthy, open relationships. Practicing monogamy is just 1 part of this equation, but it should not be the default option.
Introduction. Infidelity, contrary to what the majority of folks assume, is neither rare nor exclusively male behaviour nor is it sure to end the union.
And if they uncover each other’s adultery, they just laugh it off.

Even though a bisexual man could suit our pina cola.