Gay Relationships shows higher incidents of infidelity

In a recent study, it was shown that men in same sex relationships have a higher rate of infidelity than those of their straight counterparts.

It’s a dreadful, yet unavoidable lesson that each and every person learns. And while they frequently fail for many different reasons, maybe the most common — and the toughest to take — is when one cheats.

For a lot of people, infidelity is seen as the ultimate dealbreaker. Even more astonishing, 45 percent of admitted cheaters said their partner never found out.

This information came as a shock even though we ended our relationship a year ago. To clarify, I’m no longer teary-eyed mess every time someone brings up his name, but I could not help but reflect on the joys of our two-year romance.

For someone who loved me as much as he said he did, it was bad enough that he cheated; yet by not confessing and having me figure out using a secondhand source a year later was the cherry on top of our broken relationship.

Don’t get me wrong: Infidelity is definitely the worst crime any person can commit against their partner, and the two parties necessarily end up getting hurt. If infidelity is it a frequent part of the queer dating experience, is it really possible for men to sustain purposeful, honest relationships with each other?


Queer men have constantly fought with liberating themselves from the heteronormative constructs imbedded in our cultural structures. Despite the fact that they tend to be invisible, these ideas are detrimental to the queer experience for several diverse reasons, including the fact that they perpetuate sexual hierarchies and divisive stereotypes about men seeking relationships with men. These constructs are evident in the transformation of queer culture today: More and more LGBTQ individuals are embracing monogamous relationships and parenthood.

While monogamy, parenthood and marriage are equally desirable, queer people are told their entire lives that they need to conform to the status quo, they need to be or act a certain way to be happy, they ought to lead normal lives to have the ability to achieve acceptance. This stereotypical image is currently the omnipresent echo of society.

While Stonestreet and Ferguson are commendable for their multi-dimensional portrayals of gay men, Cam and Mitchell are only one of many representations of the exemplary homosexual couple people expect, one almost identical to another suburban family obsessed with the notion of a white picket fence — which is bullshit at the end of the day. The Cam and Mitch film, which was created by heterosexual showrunners, is eventually a dangerous stereotype since it reinforces the notion that queer people must adapt to a specific lifestyle in order to be generally accepted as normal by society.

As queer men, we are often told that there is an ideal we must succumb to. Sometimes we are even shamed into thinking that there is a perfect way to build relationships, families and lifestyles. However, these attitudes are harmful since they are restrictive to maintaining healthy, open relationships. Practicing monogamy is just 1 part of this equation, but it should not be the default option.
Introduction. Infidelity, contrary to what the majority of folks assume, is neither rare nor exclusively male behaviour nor is it sure to end the union.
And if they uncover each other’s adultery, they just laugh it off.

Even though a bisexual man could suit our pina cola.

 

California now has the most polluted cities in the world


Due to the wildfires raging in Northern California, San Francisco, Stockton and Sacramento were the world’s three “most polluted cities” on Friday morning, according toĀ Berkeley Earth, a nonprofit that aggregates data from air-quality monitoring sites.

PurpleAir, which has a network of sensors around the world, also showed that CaliforniaĀ had worse air than traditional smog hotspots in India and China.
CNN meteorologist Brandon Miller confirmed that “no region on Earth had as many air quality stations in the highest ranges” of particulate matter, or PM, the toxic mixture of particles and droplets that worsens after wildfires.
Those values, he said, “stretched for hundreds of miles over Northern and Central California, from the mountains to the valleys and the coast.”

Some call cancellations ‘too little, too late’

San Francisco’s transit agency has taken its cable carsĀ off the streets, several schools have canceled classes, and the National Park serviceĀ suspended toursĀ to Alcatraz Island.
Public schools in San Francisco and Alameda County were closed Friday, along with UC Davis and UC Merced. UC Berkeley also canceled Friday’s classes, but some students criticized the university’s decision to stay open Thursday as smoke descended on the campus.

Wildfire smoke and your health: Do you need to worry?

Wildfire smoke and your health: Do you need to worry?
The school’s student association wrote aĀ letterĀ to their chancellor denouncing the “administration’s insufficient response to these public health risks” and urging administrators to allocate emergency funds for masks and mobile air filtration units.
“Campus buildings are not equipped to filter out the pollutants making the air indoors just as harmful as it is outside,” the group wrote. Some students, even those without pre-existing conditions, said they felt sick.
“I had a bloody throat, bloody nose, a cough, dry and watering eyes, and my throat is still very sore and dry,” freshman Sabrina Thorn said. “I almost passed out trying to go to class yesterday. My professor told me to go home.”

Staying safe in the smoke

Particulate matter is the “number one environmental killer in the world,” Jacob said, and “the levels that are present in those areas affected by wildfires are like you might expect on a very polluted day in China or India.”
Smoke from fires releases particles small enough to make their way through our nose and into our lungs, Jaffe added, and “young children and the elderly have the greatest risks for immediate health concerns.”
PM can aggravate asthma, decrease lung function and increase the risk of cardiovascular events such as stroke, according to a study published last year inĀ the Lancet.Ā And because children with developing airways breatheĀ more air per pound of body weight than adults, they can experienceĀ more severe symptoms.
“We give people advice to say indoors and to reduce exercise and things like that,” Jaffe said, “but those don’t mitigate the problem too much.” That’s especially true in San Francisco, where many don’t have air conditioning.
Without any sort of “controlled system” to filter air, Jaffe said, a building doesn’t offer much protection against particulate matter. When air is properly filtered, though, people can “reduce their PM exposure by about 90%” by being inside, he said.